5 Things I Learned on my Wedding/5 Cosas que Aprendí el Dia de mi Boda
If you are anything like me, you started planning your wedding the day you got engaged (or maybe even before). You spent as much time as possible obsessing over every little detail trying to prevent anything that could go awry. I had 15 months from the moment my husband proposed to my wedding day, and I spent as much time as I could spare planning every little detail. Once we had the venue and date figured out, I obsessed over flower arrangements and decorations, guest list and travel arrangements, music, food, anything you could possibly think of, I was obsessing!
Unfortunately, one of the things I, and many people this year, had to deal with was planning around COVID and COVID restrictions. I had many of my guests cancel, many of which are close family members who would have had to travel. We discussed changing the date and maybe canceling all together and just going to the courthouse. We held out as long as possible and luckily were able to do everything the day we had planned for but that came with a whole new world of obsessive planning. Getting all precautions necessary like masks and sanitizing stations as well as making changes that would also protect the people we had hired.
I spent so much time stressing and obsessing over every little detail that by the time the wedding day rolled around I was ready for it to be over! I had not really enjoyed the planning process as much as you are supposed to. Planning your wedding is supposed to be a special time that you are meant to enjoy. It is meant to be a happy time filled with excitement and love; you are supposed to just enjoy the process! Unfortunately, most brides don’t get to just enjoy the process, we stress over every detail and by the end of it we’re burnt out.
Fortunately, that doesn’t have to be the case! Learn from my experience and do things differently for your sake! Here are some things I learned about the planning process (a little too late) on my wedding day!
1. You don’t notice all the little details you stressed over. When you first walk into the room, everyone is already in there, and you take the room in as a whole. That said, if you make sure you like the big picture, all the little details will fall into place, and quite honestly fall into the background on the wedding day.
2. You might have spent hours or even days pouring over the seating charts and the floor plan trying to keep this family member away from this other family member or something like that. ultimately you have no real way of controlling people so there’s no sense in stressing over it. You won’t even notice them or the potential drama on the day. You’ll be focused on your partner and on getting some food!
3. I had my bridal party, mainly my maid of honor, far away and it made it difficult to plan a proper bachelorette party. I spent quite a bit of time jealous over my fiancé’s bachelor party weekend and wishing I could also do something special. Finally, on the day before my wedding, my bridal party surprised me with a spa day! I had no idea, and I spent the entire time beforehand asking why we were leaving early and wondering what was going on. I decided to just go with the flow and found myself with a wonderful surprise. I learned that if you let them, the people who you love will ultimately show you how much they love you too.
4. If you get the right people to help with your hair and makeup, you will look as amazing as you want to, no matter what! This is a very personal decision for every bride and you just have to make sure you’re comfortable with your choice. I had my hair professionally done and I had spent a lot of time trying to decide what style I wanted to go with. I ultimately decided to go with a simple hairstyle that would not be on my face. As for makeup, I ended up doing that myself and I chose an elegant, pretty natural look. It is a lot of fun getting ready with your friends on any occasion, and that is still true for your wedding day.
5. If you have good food, good drink and you let yourself have fun and enjoy the moment, nothing is going to go wrong! I was worried that because of the smaller numbers, it wasn’t going to be as fun. I had a blast dancing and spending time with my now husband and my closest friends. I loved taking pictures with my family and friends. And everyone else had a great time as well! If you give your guests music, food, and something to drink, everything else is a bonus, and they’ll have a good time!
Ultimately what is most important is a good DJ, a good caterer and that you feel good about yourself and everything else will fall into place. The goal of planning a wedding is that you plan an event that you will be happy with so that you and your partner enjoy yourselves. The whole reason you’re even having a wedding is for you and your partner, so it doesn’t really matter what everyone else thinks or says. The important thing is that you feel good, that you look good and that you have a great time celebrating yourself and your partner!
In Spanish:
Si eres algo como yo, empezaste a planificar tu boda el día que te comprometiste (o quizás antes). Tomaste lo más tiempo posible obsesionando sobre cada detalle para asegurarte que todo estuviera perfecto. Yo tuve 15 meses desde el momento que mi esposo me propuso al día de mi boda, y yo estuve todo el tiempo que pude planificando cada detallito. Desde que escogimos el lugar y la fecha, me obsesione sobre las flores, las decoraciones, la lista de invitados y los planes de viaje, música, comida, cualquier cosa que se te pueda ocurrir, ¡yo estaba planificando!
Desafortunadamente, una de las cosas que muchas personas este año tuvieron que planificar alrededor de las restricciones de COVID. Yo tuve muchos invitados que cancelaron, muchos de ellos familiares que hubieran tenido que viajar. Mi esposo y yo consideramos cambiar la fecha o hasta cancelar los eventos y tener una boda civil. Nos aguantamos el mayor tiempo posible y al final tuvimos la boda el día que habíamos escogido originalmente, pero eso vino con un mundo nuevo de planificar obsesionadamente. Buscando todas las precauciones necesarias como mascarillas y estaciones de sanitización, al igual de hacer cambios que protegieran a todos.
Estuve tanto tiempo obsesionado y estresando sobre cada detalle que para el tiempo de la boda, ya estaba lista para que se acabara. No disfruté el proceso de planificar cómo se supone. Planificar tu boda se supone que sea un tiempo especial y que sea disfrutado. Es supuesto que sea un tiempo feliz lleno de emoción y amor; ¡es un tiempo para disfrutar el proceso! Desafortunadamente, la mayoría de las novias no disfrutan el proceso, nos estresamos sobre cada detallito y para el final estamos consumidas.
¡Este no tiene que ser el caso! Aprende de mi experiencia y haz las cosas diferente por tu bien. Debajo hay algunas cosas que aprendí del proceso de planificar (un poco muy tarde) el día de mi boda.
Todos esos detalles que pasaste tanto tiempo estresando sobre ellos, ¡no los notas! Cuando entras al salón por primera vez, todos los invitados ya están sentados, así que notas el salón completo. Si te aseguras que te gusta la imagen completa, todos los detalles pequeños caerán en su lugar, y honestamente caerán al fondo el día de tu boda.
Puede ser que hayas pasado horas planificando el plano de sala tratando de separar un familiar de otro familiar o algo así. Al final no tienes forma de controlar a gente así que no tiene sentido de estresarte sobre ello. Ni los vas a notar y si drama potencial el dia de tu boda. ¡Vas a estar enfocado en tu pareja y en comer algo!
Mis damas, en particular mi madrina de boda, no viven cerca a mi, así que se hizo un poco difícil planificar una despedida de soltera. Yo pasé mucho tiempo celosa del fin de semana de despedida de soltero de mi esposo y deseando que yo también pudiese hacer algo especial. Al final, el día antes de mi boda, ¡mis damas me sorprendieron con un día de spa! Con esto aprendí que si los permites, las personas que quieres te enseñan cuánto te quieren a ti también.
Si escoges a las personas correctas para ayudarte con tu pelo y maquillaje, te verás espectacular. Esto es una decisión personal para cada novia, y solo tienes que asegurarte que estés cómoda con tu decisión. Yo tuve mi pelo hecho profesionalmente, y para mi maquillaje me lo hice yo misma. Esta decisión la hice porque me di cuenta que mi pelo queria algo mas difícil que no hubiese podido hacer yo, y el maquillaje fue algo más simple que yo tenía la habilidad de hacer. Es bien divertido prepararte con tus amigas en cualquier ocasión, y eso es cierto en el día de tu boda también.
Si tienes comida buena, bebida buena y te dejas disfrutar el momento, ¡nada va a fallar! Yo estaba preocupada de que porque la menor cantidad de invitados, no hiba a ser tan divertido. Tuve un tiempo genial disfrutando con mi nuevo esposo y mis amigos. Me encantó tomarme fotos con mis amigos y familiares. ¡Y el resto de los invitados también disfrutaron el evento! Si les das comida, algo de beber, y música a tus invitados, ¡van a pasar un buen tiempo! I
Al final lo más importante es un buen DJ, un buen abastecedor, y que te sientas bien de ti misma y el resto caerá en su lugar. El objetivo de planificar una boda es planificar un evento que te vayas a disfrutar con tu pareja y del que estés feliz. La razón por la cual estás teniendo la boda es para ti y tu pareja, así que no importa lo que piensen el resto de la gente. ¡Lo importante es que te sientas bien, te veas bien y que tengas un tiempo genial disfrutando con tu pareja!